Divorce Mediation: The Sensible Way to Say Goodbye
three ways of dealing with difference: domination,
compromise, and integration. By domination, only one
side gets what it wants; by compromise, neither side gets
what it wants; by integration we find a way by which both
sides may get what they wish.
--- Mary Parker Follett
surprise that more than half of all marriages end in
divorce. More surprising is the cost of these divorces –
with legal fees averaging $20,000 to $50,000 per couple.
Add in the anger, hatred, and bitterness, and the stage is
set for long-term financial and emotional recovery.
Fortunately, marriages can be dissolved in a respectful and
dignified manner through mediation. Typical average cost:
$1,000 to $2,000. This enormous saving frees up funds that
may be used for more productive purposes like home purchases
and college educations.
typical court litigated divorce, mediation is
non-adversarial, enabling couples to forge future
relationships that offer more courtesy and respect. This is
particularly important if the divorcing couple will be
raising children in separate homes. Additionally, mediated
agreements tend to last longer than court awards as it is
the couple who decides what they want and not a judge.
Divorce Mediators, we will effectively facilitate you and
your spouse’s discussion in the division of your marital
assets and, if you have children, the authoring of a comprehensive parenting
agreement. Highly trained in
conflict resolution, we will help you sift through the
emotions that might prevent agreement and help you focus on
your interests so you may achieve your goals and plan for
your and your children's future. We will not make decisions
or impose settlements, but act as neutrals to help you move
forward to “where we want to go” and away from “where we’ve been.”
Statistically, fifty percent of couples who originally went
to court are back within a year seeking a modification to a court
imposed judgment or on a contempt charge for not complying
with an order. Participants in a mediated case are far less
likely to go to court to change an agreement because they
negotiated it themselves in the first place.
helps you build agreements that work and endure.
don't I need
divorce lawyer or a mediator who is a lawyer?"
Maybe....but most likely not.
In reality, many mediators who happen to be attorneys find
it difficult to wear two hats. Our experienced
mediators are not faced with this dilemma.
It is important to
understand that all
decisions you make in mediation are not binding until you
have a separate separation agreement drafted and you have
signed that agreement. You are always given the
opportunity to consult your legal or financial advisor to
review your proposed decisions prior to making them final