strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in
which you really stop to look fear in the face. You
must do the thing which you think you cannot do.
--- Eleanor Roosevelt
Couples should always
come to the mediation
table prepared. Providing you with the tools to help
increase your productivity is part of our job.
preparation process involves several dynamics:
Self reflection -
Am I ready to address the issues in a fair way? Can I
set aside my anger or hurt to the extent that we can do the
best thing for our situation? Can I focus on my
children and their needs?
Review of the
issues - Personally considering the issues before you
mediate helps you get your mind focused on the task at hand.
Knowing how you feel -- in advance -- about spending time
with the children at Christmas or what you wish to do with
the marital home greatly increases your productivity at the
conference room table.
Knowing what to
expect - Knowing how your mediation will be conducted and
how your thoughts and actions affect you is paramount to a
successful session. Learn the ropes from an attorney
and a mental health professional on how you can improve your
outlook as well as your effectiveness while mediating.
Mediation is your
idea and your spouse isn't so sure - Excellent guidance on
how to have the highest level of success in proposing
mediation as an alternative to bullying each other in court.